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Lumus -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:10:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch quote: ORIGINAL: Lumus The only question that raised my ire was, "Well, wouldn't You prefer not to know, since you have so much on your plate...?" I'll confess, my teeth were gritting a bit when I replied, "Priorities, girl. you happen to be right near the top of them, so don't ever assume for a moment that I don't want to know when something is troubling you!" I'm like dat. [8D] Same answer that Michael would give to me.. :-) I knew I liked you Lumus... grins toothily at BSB Long time no see! I hope all's well in your niche of the world.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:11:13 PM)
its always nice to see aholes like you on here that flame someone for responding to the op's post. thats all i did. if you were a WEAL WABBIT i'd hunt you down with my rifle. dont like my posts...THEN SHUDDUP.

Lashra -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:18:28 PM)
No never, when my boy has a question I encourage him to ask it. We have open communication at all times. I feel Dominants that do not want their subs/slaves asking questions are ones that may have insecurities or something to hide. ~Lashra

Redoubt -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:25:10 PM)
This issue always makes me wonder what on earth some people are up to. Questions about the relationship should never be punished... now "are you gonna Dom me tonight, or are you too drunk?" is just a recipe for disaster. If the Dom in question (assuming its not the above question) reacts angrily to a question that is respectful, I think it is safe to assume that somethings awry in Slappy Land. Even if you're in a relationship where you're just an object of pleasure, never allowed an opinion, or a free thought, it should never be anger that prompts your partner to correct you that "sorry, you don't get a say... it's that way because I say so" - I can't ever see anger being a positive response. More importantly, if you have questions and theyre not being answered, it sounds like more thought about your dynamic is in order.

StormsSlave -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:38:20 PM)
I ask A LOT of questions, most of them starting with why. If a Dom were unwilling to answer my questions, I'd walk away. No more questions asked. The only time My Lord becomes annoyed with me is when I'm asking a question to make a point, and then only usually if I am right. [;)] However, I do agree with LA, and have always. A dumb question is one where the answer is patently obvious or the question is intended to create discourse as opposed to enlightenment.

Wildfleurs -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:45:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum For asking a question? I was reading another post and she said this "ok, I seem to have a problem with communication with my master, girl has asked several questions which has gotten girl into trouble so girl puts it to other Masters" Personally I've tried to encourage questions in most situations. My attitude it The only dumb questions is one not asked. Have you ever gotten upset by them asking a question or gotten yelled at for asking one? BadOne I can't say that he's ever gotten upset or yelled over just a question. I know that sometimes he's gotten annoyed or exasperated if I ask a stupid question or a question that starts with "so I was reading this thread on collarchat...." C~

silvermuse -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 3:51:26 PM)
I might get in trouble for how I asked the question, but never for the question itself. silvermuse

adoracat -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 5:52:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: silvermuse I might get in trouble for how I asked the question, but never for the question itself. silvermuse i second this. kitten

Leatherist -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 5:53:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist No. The only time I get upset is when they refuse to listen to the answers. or they don't like the answer! The main answer they seem to dislike is "Get over it."

MaamJay -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 6:52:56 PM)
As a teacher and as a Domme, I'd like to join all those who say they never get pissed off at a question ... but that's not entirely true. While I do tell students and subs "there are no stupid questions, only those not asked", I do explain to them that I will get pissed off when (a) the question has been previously asked and answered and the student/sub is trying their luck again (often with a slightly different wording ... trying to trick Me are you??) (b) the question shows they weren't paying attention to previous answers/instructions (c) the question is aimed at deliberately provoking Me (except then I do My best to NOT appear pissed off even if I really am!) (d) the question deliberately interrupts Me ... might be OK if it's for clarification of one point before I continue, but not if it's trying to take Me off down a side path and deviate Me from what I was going to say (especially when that was what the student/sub guessed they wouldn't enjoy hearing!). I never mind questions that are genuinely seeking to gain knowledge or understanding, and I don't mind someone encapsulating or paraphrasing what I have just said and checking that they have got it right. At least that shows they listened, and if they've got one little bit wrong but the rest right, I can correct the error. Fortunately for my sub side, Master feels much the same way about questions and W/we have very free communication. That said, I think some are being a bit harsh on posters who bring their questions here. While I generally feel it ultimately needs to be resolved with the other person in the partnership, sometimes it is a help to get a feel for the wider view out there, or to hear other perspectives and thoughts on the matter. That can be very helpful in formulating the question you "really want to ask" your SO. Sometimes it's hard for people to know what they want to ask and how they should ask it clearly. Or sometimes, a poster has tried to ask their SO first, made a hash of it, and comes here for further help and clarification. I don't think that's always a bad thing. Let's face it, if no one asked questions, these boards wouldn't exist and none of us would have got all the fascinating insights into the lives of others that we get here ... nor made the friendships that people make here. And I for one, would miss that. Maam Jay aka violet[A]

slaveluci -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 7:05:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum For asking a question? I was reading another post and she said this "ok, I seem to have a problem with communication with my master, girl has asked several questions which has gotten girl into trouble so girl puts it to other Masters" Personally I've tried to encourage questions in most situations. My attitude it The only dumb questions is one not asked. Have you ever gotten upset by them asking a question or gotten yelled at for asking one? I can answer this one for Master. I know Him well enough to know that the only question He would ever get perturbed at me for asking is one to some "other master." If I wanted to do what "other masters" wanted, I wouldn't need to be owned by the One I'm owned by. Asking some "other master" would get my Master to be one pissed-off Master, indeed. Why should I care what some "other master" thinks when it's irrelevant to what mine wants? Unbelievable. I couldn't respect Master if it bothered Him to be asked a question. If He can't be bothered to fill me in on what I need to know to serve Him the best I can, why should I be bothered to give my life to Him? He obviously wouldn't have the time or inclination to direct it if a simple question always earned His ire. An owner/master, IMHO, has to contribute at least a little bit to the whole dynamic. If He can't be bothered to at least throw his 2 cents in, how invested/interested is he? Not much...................luci *Edited for spelling*

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 7:43:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs I can't say that he's ever gotten upset or yelled over just a question. I know that sometimes he's gotten annoyed or exasperated if I ask a stupid question or a question that starts with "so I was reading this thread on collarchat...." C~ ROFL that has caused a few eyerolls from my partner as well.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 7:54:46 PM)
i dont give any one grief...i do what i do, say what i say...and they can choose to transmute it as grief, or as support, depending totally on their information filtering sysem and communication skill set.

tdslittlehelper -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 10:02:08 PM)
I have never gotten in trouble for asking a question. In fact quite the opposite. I get in trouble when I DON'T talk...

ownedgirlie -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/22/2008 10:03:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs I can't say that he's ever gotten upset or yelled over just a question. I know that sometimes he's gotten annoyed or exasperated if I ask a stupid question or a question that starts with "so I was reading this thread on collarchat...." C~ ROFL that has caused a few eyerolls from my partner as well. Grin me too. To answer the OP, I'd say it depends on the question. I have been known to ask inappropriate questions before, and I know what they are. I have exhasparated him with incessant questions about a subject matter that annoyed him. I have been corrected for being inappropriate in the way I have asked questions. But to become angry for questions to gain information, understanding or clarification? Nope.

PinkDice -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/23/2008 1:35:36 AM)
Informed consent is a really big part of the dynamic I seek. If I were punished for trying to clarify a specific aspect of a relationship, I wouldn't be sticking around for very long. For me to feel secure, I would need access to the community in general as a sounding board and trust in my Sir or Ma'am to have the final say and to clear up any curiosities or misconceptions I may develop. On the flip side, I wouldn't put it past myself to use questions as a form of acting out and would expect to be punished immediately in this case.

wisteriaV -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/23/2008 1:46:00 AM)
Master has never given me grief about asking questions. His theory is : If questions aren't asked then we would be living back in caveman times. Questions encourage growth and open the mind to possibilities!

SailingBum -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/23/2008 2:11:29 AM)
Thanks all for your responses. BadOne

servantheart -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/23/2008 2:27:30 AM)
Master has never given me any type of grief for asking questions, and without fail answers them patiently and fully. I am blessed to be His property.

eyesopened -> RE: Have you ever given your girl grief (2/23/2008 2:41:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci Asking some "other master" would get my Master to be one pissed-off Master, indeed. Why should I care what some "other master" thinks when it's irrelevant to what mine wants? Unbelievable. i know my Master well enough that this would piss Him off as well! i cannot imagine asking other Masters what i could not ask my own. i am in a TPE relationship, i am property, however in our dynamic, Master owns this particular piece of property because it comes with some cool, pre-loaded data that He has total access to via an interactive system. The property asks questions and like a better form of Tivo, learns what Master likes, dislikes, needs, and then stores the information to anticiapate Master's needs in the future.

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